A lot of us have trouble getting out of the house on a Friday night. It seems like everyone else in the world is having fun while you don’t have anything special to do. Some people are just born social.
They are usually very agreeable even as a child.
Some people don’t like talking to people that much and end up becoming wallflowers.
There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert.
They can be tremendous power.
However, everyone can benefit from knowing how to be social online and offline.
We have to communicate with people daily and the better you know how to do that, the more successful you will be in society.
Today I am going to show you how you can start to be more social and start getting out there more often.
Join a hobby or a club: If you’re not social at all, to start with this can be difficult. Jump into the deep end and start talking to everyone. This is related to join a club or find a hobby.
For people with similar, interests of yours can congregate. This will make you break the ice and give you a nice level of comfort to communicate with these people. It helps many of you doing a club which is usually outdoors activities and sports.
You’ll have something to do when you’re not talking to people. Also been out in the open and in nature will naturally ease your nerves.
Start talking to people a lot than before.
Say more than just Hi: You might know a lot of people in your school or office but you might not know who they are. They’re just acquaintances that you see every once in a while and every time you see them we just nod your head and say Hi.
The easiest way to start being more social is to start talking to people like this in your life.
It’s not that awkward for you to start talking to them because you already know them on some sort of level. But it’s also different enough to push you out of your comfort zone.
So the best thing to do is to force you to say more than just hi. Talk about a current event that happened. Or maybe you noticed something they’re wearing; try to avoid cliché topics like the sport or the weather because then you won’t be able to form a real connection with the person.
Don’t engage in controversial topics like politics in your first interactions with people.
That will bring about negative feelings, which is something that they don’t want.
Bring out your all rough edges: When you’re communicating with people, don’t try to behave like you’re perfect.
If you make a mistake, laugh about it. Share stories of failures and talk about how crazy you felt.
This is not self-deprecating. This only helps. You are making a real connection with people.
They see you as more authentic. We’ve all met those uptight people who only talk about certain things and refuse to acknowledge their own errors. You don’t want to become like that.
People are attracted to each other’s rough edges.
People don’t care if you’re perfect. All they care about is that you are at ease with yourself.
Let your personality shine and don’t be afraid of any part of you. If you’re really into classical music and all of your co-workers only listen to pop, don’t try to conform to their standards.
Share your opinions with them. Let them all know why you’re interested in certain things.
When you are sure to do this, you will find that more people will gravitate towards you because they know that you’re standing for something.
The important thing is that you don’t start preaching. Don’t be judgmental towards others for their opinions. It’s best to follow the Golden Rule here. Treat others like you want them to treat you.
Talking to strangers can be scary at first. When you’re a little bit more comfortable talking to people that you have similar interests with then you can start going and getting out.
Start talking to random strangers you might come into contact with every day.
Complement the cashier on its launch. Talk to the girl sitting next to you on the train.
Just be open to having a conversation with everyone and don’t be afraid of it.
I know this can be very nerve-racking and something that is certainly not easy to do. If that’s the case with you then I recommend that you start talking to people who are paid to talk to you. Like, salespeople, cashiers.
You don’t have to have lengthy conversations about the meaning of life with them.
You just talk a little bit more than you normally would.
For example: Go to a restaurant, in that waiter, just hanging around talking to them a little bit.
Ask them what their favorite dishes are from the menu.
What I’ve noticed is that as I start to do this I form a more human connection with the person and this helps me way more than you might expect.
Many times in restaurants waiters have explicitly told me not to order certain dishes even though they were expensive. Sometimes closed salespeople tell me that it’s better if I come in a week after because we’ll be having a sale and I’ll get a better deal.
Don’t be afraid to make a fool out of yourself: In middle school, this was probably the biggest problem for me and probably for a lot of people too I think. The biggest reason that holds most people back socially is that they’re afraid to make a fool out of themselves. Well here’s the thing, even if you do make a fool out of yourself it’s not a big deal.
People are just as insecure as you are. So they don’t have time to worry about you.
They’re too busy worrying about themselves.
If you want to condition yourself, do not care what other people think. Just take your shirt off in public and walk around. Wear your underwear around your pants. Once you do something like this and realize that most people simply brush past, you will truly realize that you’re afraid of nothing.
For so long you don’t have to take it to that extreme. Though all you have to do is remember that everyone on this planet shares some common traits. 99% of our DNA is similar to everyone else on this planet. As long as you’re able to connect with some people and share who you are with them you’re, going to be much happier and successful.
In conclusion, becoming social needs focus and that special push.